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5 Strategies for increasing EQ in yourself and your team

Everyone’s journey to self-awareness and higher levels of EQ is different. It may also be a long or short journey – no matter, the real point here is that it can be cultivated. 

One of the really important things to remember is that everyone has a story and it might be a traumatic story or one filled with love and lightness or a combination thereof. When we come to work, we bring our whole selves and so those learned behaviours or strategies that helped you get through once, my not continue to serve you.

My personal experience has been that EQ can be developed and sometimes that’s easy and sometimes that hard. And it’s like any sort of personal development right – it takes focus. You need to build habits around it and prompts so that it just becomes second nature. I grew up in a household filled with low EQ – they had their own trauma and were from an era where we didn’t talk about feelings and things were dealt with anger. Trauma creates its own behaviours and patterns of thinking to protect yourself. I’ve therefore had to do a lot of work on myself (including counselling, podcasts, reading, wellbeing retreats, etc) to develop more constructive responses to situations, and I am so much happier and better for it.

When you increase your self-awareness and management, you increase your resilience and wellbeing. So why bother developing these skills? These are just some of the gifts of higher levels of EQ.

  1. Increased quality of communication
  2. Increases empathy and compassion
  3. Reduces conflict
  4. Improves relationships
  5. Ability to better manage anxiety and stress levels

So what are some of the ways we can cultivate EQ in ourselves:

  • Paying attention to own emotions – noticing, reflecting, asking why. 
  • Asking for feedback after meetings or interactions – I like to do a quick self-reflection after most major meetings
  • Understanding your values and what triggers you – create strategies for when this happens
  • Staying open to others emotions by asking questions. You’ll be better able to listen, empathise and be compassionate.
  • What are your relationship strategies? When you are at work and you are collaborating – what strategies are you employing to get the right outcomes and building trust. 

So how do you cultivate it in your team – put your own oxygen mask on first and then?

  • Focus on your team operating rhythm – structures, meetings, team values and culture. When are you going to meet face-to-face vs when to zoom. We are all experiencing zoom burnout.
  • Be clear on what the non-negotiables behaviour-wise are – language etc
  • Agree on how and when you’ll ask and give each other feedback – this is cracker for building trust
  • Get a team coach to support you – you could also do some self-assessment or 360 feedback. Remember change can start with a strong catalyst.
  • Understand your team members strengths – individually and collectively. When you work with your strengths at work, you will be more engaged and energised.
  • Prioritise individual and team wellbeing.

Remember, change takes time. Small steps will lead to more sustainable change.

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